• Hacksaw@lemmy.ca
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    5
    arrow-down
    2
    ·
    9 hours ago

    It’s better to show your kids what is like to be happy and have your needs met than to show them being miserable and setling. Especially on their behalf.

    Which would you rather for your kids?

    Which are you showing your kids by example?

    • Emerald@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      2
      ·
      8 hours ago

      Ah, yes. Let me tell the children that I’m getting a divorce cause wifey won’t fuck me

    • stoicmaverick@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      7 hours ago

      Do you have kids? I used to hate when people would ask me that question before I had kids, because it seems to imply that having them places your opinion on a higher tier. Now that I do, I try and avoid it as much as possible for that reason, but I do understand that parenting is one of the theaters where theory space, and optimal practice, can be very different. The fact is, they never have to know, at least until they’re old enough to understand. They don’t have to know that Dad is sad when he’s alone with Mom, because we still have fun and laugh as a family when they are present. The lesson that I’m teaching them by example, is that it is better to have one bedroom than two, then to have to decide whether they want to live with mom or dad most of the time, that even though Mom and Dad civilly argue sometimes, we can still be a family, and be happy most of the time, rather than give up on a promise made before they were born because of factors they can’t possibly understand yet.