• peopleproblems@lemmy.world
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      4 hours ago

      So this blew my mind, but once I got beyond the whole “my ex doesn’t love me, she ruined my life” the whole thing of single 4eva disappeared. It turns out, you, as an individual, need to love yourself first, before anyone else can.

      Know why? Cause only you can advocate for all of your qualities and issues.

      I’m discovering a lot about me. I don’t have the time or energy for a significant other right now, so I should be single. Sure I have physical desires, but with creativity you can get through that.

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      8 hours ago

      Same.

      I only really ever had two goals in life and I managed to fail them stupendously:

      1)Not be the guy who’s miserable every day and doesn’t want to wake up to go to work.

      2)To be in a loving relationship.

      1 is making 2 even more difficult. On second thought it’s like an ouroboros, 1 makes 2 more difficult which compounds the misery of 1 lol